I have inner turmoil. Confusion. Uncertainty.
Bad hair.
My hair is too long. It's wild, unruly, unkempt and pretty much a hot mess. Really it's not even a hot mess since that would imply the use of a hairdryer or some styling tools. Not happening. I'm lucky if I get it washed these days, and air drying has been the name of the game all summer long. But when my kids went to school this morning, it was only 55 degrees and I was whomped in the face with the fact that fall is coming, and soon air drying soon won't be an option.
For some reason, after I have a baby, I always want to cut my hair. I think somehow less hair means simpler hair, and I cut it and then remember that you really have to do shorter hair for it to look decent.
I no longer want to appear as though I'm channelling Medusa, or doing a trial run on my scary Halloween hairdo. And at only 5'1", it doesn't take much to be totally overtaken by my hair. So just cut some, right? Well there's part of the dilemma- I could, but for one, I'm nearly to the point where I could cut it and donate it if I went short-ish. And, with shorter hair my comes my unfathomable fear of one dreaded thing: Mom Hair.
Yes, much to my chagrin I drive a minivan, but I don't want people to know that about me by looking at my hair. I am a Mom, but high waisted tapered jeans are not mandatory, and neither is the "I stay home with small children all day, so I've given up" haircut. I don't even know what that haircut is. There are many variations, but you know one when you see one. And if I get one, I won't ever really know it. No one will tell me. They'll think it, but never tell me.
I'm not good at doing my hair, so I'm limited by that. Round brushing? Forget it. You'll be cutting brushes out of my tangled mass by the time I'm done. Plus I have the post baby new growth coming in, so for about a year or more, I will look like I've sprouted several antennae any time I try to add any sort of volume to my hair. Styling my own hair is just not an area where I have any know-how or confidence whatsoever.
I'd like to look fabulous.
My guess is I will look something like me. Minus some split ends.
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Have you ever read Carol Tuttle's "It Just My Nature"? She also has a follow-up of that book that's specifically about women dressing according to their movement and nature (called "Dressing your Truth"). That may give you ideas of the type of haircut that feels most natural to you.
I have figured out some of the cuts that feel best on me and am waiting for the sweet, sweet day when filming is over and I can stop looking like an Israelite!
I will have to look for those- do you own them? It sounds interesting to me. What cuts are you looking to do? That is once you are released from the bonds of filming... :)
I do not own them, borrowed them from Clarice Applegate, but my husband wants to include them in our home library.
Here's Carol Tuttle's beauty program site
For my 1st cut, I'm thinking of going really short, airy, and layered in rebelliong of long, heavy hair.
Hi Wendy. It's funny you should write a post about cutting your hair as my hair has been irritating me for the past few weeks (the last time was around Christmas). Now I'm wondering if I have a 'I've given up' mum hairdo. I'm going to look closely at how the other mums in the playground are looking at me tomorrow at drop-off. By the way, your hair looks fabulous on your profile pic!
That's great! My last haircut was also around Christmas (and then only because we were in B.C. at my parents' home, and my Mum got me a haircut as part of my (December) birthday gift). That profile picture was just a couple of months after that- that's why it still looked half-way decent. Thank-you for your kind words! I'd love to go back to the girl that cut my hair up there. If you do discover you have the Mum hairdo, it's nothing that can't be temporarily remedied with a cheeky streak of hot pink. ;)
Pantene Beautiful Lengths lets you go a little shorter - 8 inches I think. And they are more in need right now.
I totally understand the Mommy haircut thing. I've always been complimented on my hair so it's a big deal to me. But it turns out that Ben LIKES my hair shorter. I think "giving up" has more to do with your overall appearance than the length/style of your hair. Wear decent clothes, a little makeup, attempt to do your hair, and let your beauty shine! If you "get ready" every day then you didn't give up. Do what you WANT to do with your hair! Wow I'm bossy huh.
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